Books That Speak to Big Feelings: A List for 8-to-13-Year-Olds

books that speak to big feelings

Hey Mama,

Let me paint you a picture: It’s 7:30 PM. Dinner is done, the dishwasher is humming, and I’m ready to soak in a rare moment of peace—until I hear my 8-year-old say, “Mom, I feel sad, and I don’t know why.” Moments like this remind me that kids are complex little humans, full of emotions they’re still figuring out how to express.

In my house, feelings run deep. My teen daughter is a highly sensitive person (HSP), my son is navigating the anxiety rollercoaster with nail-biting as his co-pilot, and my youngest is already grappling with those “loud negative thoughts” that make mornings a challenge. As a mom, I’ve learned that sometimes, the best way to help them process their big emotions is through stories.

Books have this magical way of giving kids the words to express feelings they didn’t even know they had. They can find themselves in the characters, feel validated, and even learn tools for navigating life’s ups and downs. That’s why I’ve curated this list of books for 8-to-13-year-olds that tackle big emotions, foster empathy, and inspire resilience.


Books That Inspire and Empower

  1. “Wonder” by R.J. Palacio
    • Why it’s great: This heartwarming story of Auggie, a boy born with a facial difference, teaches empathy, kindness, and the value of standing up for what’s right. It’s a family favorite in our house.
  2. “Inside Out and Back Again” by Thanhhà Lại
    • Why it’s great: Written in verse, this book explores the journey of a young girl adapting to a new country. It’s perfect for helping kids understand change and resilience.
  3. “The Girl Who Drank the Moon” by Kelly Barnhill
    • Why it’s great: This magical tale weaves themes of identity, courage, and the strength found in love and community.
  4. “El Deafo” by Cece Bell
    • Why it’s great: A graphic memoir about growing up with hearing loss, this book speaks to the power of self-acceptance and finding your voice.
  5. “When You Trap a Tiger” by Tae Keller
    • Why it’s great: This award-winning book is a tender exploration of grief, family, and the magic of storytelling.

Why Books Work

Here’s the thing: Books don’t just entertain—they open doors to conversations we might not know how to start. When my teen daughter was battling trichotillomania and grappling with her emotions, reading stories about other kids facing their own challenges gave her comfort. For my 11-year-old son, reading helps him decompress and focus his nervous energy. And my youngest? Stories are her way of finding answers to the feelings she can’t yet name.


How We Use Books to Navigate Big Feelings

  • Read Together: Even with my older kids, we still have family reading time. Sharing stories together allows us to discuss tough topics in a relaxed, safe way.
  • Character Conversations: After reading, we talk about what the characters went through. Questions like, “What would you do in their situation?” help my kids reflect on their own feelings and choices.
  • Personal Picks: I let each of my kids choose books that resonate with their unique personalities and struggles. For my teen, stories about self-discovery hit home. For my son, it’s all about humor and adventure.

Finding the Right Fit

Every child is different, and the key is finding books that speak to their current experiences. If you’re not sure where to start, try letting them browse a library or bookstore and pick something that catches their eye. You can also ask a librarian for recommendations based on their interests and age group.


Stories That Heal and Inspire

Mama, parenting through the emotions of 8-to-13-year-olds is no joke. But books can be a lifeline—not just for them, but for us, too. They remind our kids (and us) that they’re not alone in their struggles, that bravery comes in many forms, and that it’s okay to feel all the feelings.

So grab a blanket, curl up with your kiddo, and let a good story do its magic. Trust me, it’s worth every page.

Big hugs and happy reading,
Carly

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